'Am I really wrong here?': Newlywed doesn't want husband to cut honeymoon short despite his SIL's car accident

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    Tableware - "My husband wants to cut the [honeymoon] short and go back to our home now. 11
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    Font - AITA for not wanting to cancel our honeymoon despise what happened with my brother in law? My husband (m32) and I (f24) just got married a three weeks ago and we are currently celebrating our honeymoon. The plan was to travel for two months for different countries of Europe, Asia and Africa. We currently are in Spain and we are supposed to take a plane to Morocco in two days. However my husband wants to cut the trip short and go back to our home now.
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    Font - The thing is his brother is in a horrible situation, his wife and daughter had a car crash and they're on the hospital. The kid is fine but his wife has to be a little longer in the hospital, that's all I know. I told my husband that I understand he wants to support his brother but that he's not a doctor so he can't do anything to help really. And his brother's wife is fine, she probably only has a broken leg or something and that's why she needs some more days in the hospital. I told him
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    Font - He wasn't having any of it, he called me selfish and then he kicked me out of our bedroom, I had to ask for a new one until he decided to let me in again. He told me that he's leaving tomorrow because he needs to be supportive of his brother and told me I can continue the trip by myself. But that's not the point of s honeymoon at all, I told him so and he said that if he would've known how I was he would've never dated me. Am I really wrong here? Sorry I can't reply to every comment but I
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    Font - ish MaybeAWalrus. 22 hr. ago. edited 21 hr. ago Doesn't matter how well your in laws are doing. The only important thing here is that your HUSBAND doesn't feel right staying away from his family in this time of need. Your husband is NOT having fun with your right now, he is not enjoying your company because his mind is elsewhere and he is worried for his brother. Yes, it's 100% wrong of you to ask him to disregard his own feeling just so he can keep you company, for you own little sake. Y
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    Font - crystalzelda 20 hr. ago. edited 19 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [22] EDIT: I take it all back. This is completely a NTA situation. OP just replied that her husband is REFUSING to disclose the condition of his SIL because OP "doesn't need to know and he doesn't want to discuss it with her". Yeah, now I know why a 30-year-old married someone in their early 20s, much easier to control. No woman his age would put up with that bull
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    Font - EDIT 2: OP has just said that her husband doesn't "allow" her to be in the room when he calls his family to get updates, so doesn't even know anything beyond "SIL and niece where in a car accident". Absolutely unhinged behavior from this guy.
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    Font - Honestly, this is kinda his fault for marrying a 24 year old. Sorry, but I'm the age of OP's husband and my friend's little sister is OP's age, and the maturity gap is huge! 8 year age gap between 20s and 30s is really big. I'm 0% shocked that OP lacks the maturity, sensitivity and emotional intelligence to understand that her husband wants to come home bc she's too focused on wanting to have her own fun. Unfortunately loads of ppl in their early 20s are very self centered - that typicall
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    Font - ESH, especially since he kicked her out of the hotel room and is withholding information about the status of his family from her. OP's said repeatedly that he's not being forthcoming about the injuries his SIL suffered. That's f up and weird. OP, time to grow up, but hey. He knew what he was getting into dating someone so freaking young in a completely different life stage than him. 15.5k Reply Share
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    Font - Cold Illustrious5041 21 hr. ago Unpopular opinion but NTA. No one died or is on life support from the sounds of it. No major surgeries. The brother has support. I would not expect my brother to cut his honeymoon short to come home - especially if i had several others helping me out. If someone had died, was near death or was severely disabled, it would be different. 6.9k Reply Share
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    Font - Tour Commercial3226 20 hr. ago edited 20 hr. ago Why is everyone ignoring the fact that the husband is refusing to give her any info other than "they're fine but SIL has to stay in the hospital". Her husband is refusing to share important information. I can't imagine a reason for not giving your wife a proper update on injured family. I'm more concerned with his behavior than OP's.
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    Font - OP think real hard about staying with someone who refuses to share information that would absolutely typically be shared with a spouse. The way he treated you when you didn't want to go along with his unilateral decision is highly concerning. ΝΤΑ 5.2k Reply Share :
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    Font - gooseylucyless 22 hr. ago INFO: you said she probably only has a broken leg or something. Do you know her actual medical condition at the moment or are you assuming? 2.6k Reply Share
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    Font - RealitySome3605 OP 21 hr. ago That's all the info I have, they're fine but his wife still has to be in the hospital for a while Reply Share 439 Sensitive_Coconut339 17 hr. ago Are you sure the brother, SIL and kid exist? Like have you met them in person? Reply Share 192 RealitySome3605 OP. 16 hr. ago Yes we met in the wedding 338 Reply Share
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    Font - rbrancher2 23 hr. ago YTA. At least until you find out what exactly is wrong with your SIL. 'She probably only has a broken leg or something...' Why don't you know what else is wrong with your SIL? -39 Reply Share RealitySome3605 OP 23 hr. ago My husband doesn't want to tell me more, i can't ask his brother because I don't have his phone number 996 Reply Share
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    Font - Ladderzat 21 hr. ago INFO: Does your husband not want to tell you more after you told him he shouldn't go home or did he actively keep you in the dark the moment he was told SIL is in hospital? Reply Share 216 RealitySome3605 OP 20 hr. ago No he never told me, he said I don't need to know and then I we had the argument. I don't know why he doesn't want to tell me what happened but I think he would tell me if it was a life or death case. He only told me they had a car accident, they both h
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    Font - bimbobagginzz. 20 hr. ago This is very strange. Does he usually share information with you or is this common? 85 Reply Share RealitySome3605 OP 20 hr. ago He likes his privacy and sometimes he tells me that I won't understand anyway. It really depends on what kind of information it is, sometimes he shares it with me but sometimes he don't 182 Reply Share
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    Font - Amandathe Magnificent 520 hr. ago My friend, do you have a way to leave and go back to your home country safely? There is nothing good for you in this marriage. There is only abuse and pain and isolation. 304 Reply Share RealitySome3605 OP. 18 hr. ago I'll call my father to tell him all of this and ask him what I have to do 373 Reply Share

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